Music Monday – Ribs, Wine & Ice Cream

Warning: If you are currently on the verge of a break-up, recently broken up, or your ain’t sh*t partner won’t return your calls or text messages, proceed with caution.

I was listening to my favorite podcast, The FriendZone, last week and they opened the show discussing break up songs. They all went around and listed a couple songs that really hit home when the relationship/situationship has run its course and it’s time to move on (easier said than done, I’m aware).

It got me thinking about my go-to playlist for when it’s time to break out the ribs, wine and ice cream. AKA throwing a pity party for myself with my favorite sad songs. What’s funny is, I actually have an entire playlist on my Spotify dedicated to pity parties. I mean, doesn’t everyone? Thankfully, there has been no need for it recently. *hits dabb*

But, why? Why do we do this to ourselves? It would make sure sense to listen to something more uplifting, right?

For me, I think it’s nice to know that someone else has gone through what I’m currently going through during my time of heartbreak and self-pity. And a lot of the time, you can’t put into words the exact feelings you are experiencing. The right song, at the right time, can and will, though. It allows you to connect with both the artist and your present state of emotions. And once you recognize your current emotional state, you can begin to deal with them and start to move on (if you’re willing and ready, of course).

So while it is a bit melancholy to lay in a fetal position listening to sad songs, I believe it also aids you in the process of recovery.

Here are just a few of the songs that I love when the unfortunate but inevitable time has come.

(This is by no means an exhaustive list, these are just a few of my favorites)

This song low-key tore me up when I was going it during a past situationship (Situationship-any problematic relationship characterized by one or more unresolved, interpersonal conflicts. usually confused with dating). Shoutout to Urban Dictionary.

Again, another song that tore me up. I don’t even think I was going through anything when I first heard this. A combination of Labrinth’s voice and the authenticity of the lyrics did it for me.

If your partner has recently left you for someone else, get a slab of ribs, wine and ice cream ready. Jazmine is going to take you there with this one. Sidenote: I saw Jazmine Sullivan live in concert last night and she is EVERYTHING!

An Etta James original, redone my Beyonce for the movie Cadillac Records. She did that.

This song could have been the theme song for a situationship that my stupid 20-year old self was a part of in college. We must learn when to let folks go. “How could this be love but makes me feels so bad.” Bruh!


Amber Riley is a gem! She is one of the best vocalist of our generation. When I watched Glee, it was for the sole purpose of hearing her sing. After she sang us under our seats during The Wiz Live, I’m hoping I will be seeing more of her.

When you’re in love all by yourself. *grabs tissue*

This song is the epitome of a broken heart. “And the worse part is, before it gets any better we’re headed for a cliff. And in the freefall I will realize I’m better off when I hit the bottom.” Bruhhh…

“Something always brings me back to you, it never takes too long.” I’m going to need Sara Bareilles to stop telling all my business. Thanks.

SING, Eric!

I think it’s pretty apparent that I love Whitney Houston, but Sam Smith’s cover to “How Will I Know” really took me there. Sam Smith is known for getting folks in their feelings, though.

BRUHHHH! Just listen to the song. Sidenote: Vivian Green also performed at the concert I was at last night. Beautiful woman, beautiful spirit, beautiful voice!

It’s impossible to have a list of sad songs and not mention Love Is A Losing Game by the late and great Amy Winehouse.

If you’ve made it to the end of this post and you’re not in your feelings, congratulations. You’re probably one of the more emotionally stable humans. If you are, however, currently in your feelings after reading and listening, I apologized. You were warned.

Leave some comments of your favorite sad songs!

Music Monday – The G.O.A.T

It’s Music Monday! What better way to start my first Music Monday post, and the week, with the greatest vocalist of all time?

This week’s Music Monday post is dedicated to the G.O.A.T (Greatest Of All Time), Whitney Houston.

The power and control she used during this performance are unreal, and she makes it looks effortless.

What I admire most about Whitney Houston has a performer is that it’s all about the music. She doesn’t do all the extra stuff. All she needs is a mic and her band and she commands the stage with her voice alone. Incredible.

Check out the late and great Whitney shut the 1994 American Music Awards down! She sang me bald with this medley of “I Love You, Porgy,” “And I’m Telling You,” and “I Have Nothing.”

Peace & Light.

Do It Afraid.

My first post! I’m so excited, and also very nervous to officially launch my blog and make it public.

I love writing, and it has always been one of my areas of strength. I believe I’m a more effective communicator via written discourse than I am via verbal. I like to sit and process an answer or response before actually giving an answer or stating an opinion. Writing allows me to do that.

I had the idea of starting a blog months ago. I’m a recent grad and started working full time at the beginning of 2015. While working 40 hours a week is cool, I was bored and just frankly unfulfilled. In college, and even high school, I was very active. In college, I had anywhere from 2-3 jobs at a time and carrying a full course load. I was always tired, but I loved staying active and being busy. I’m one of those people that flourish in high volume settings. So when I was just working 1 job, I had too much time on my hands. I started to really assess my interests and how I can turn them into productive and fulfilling hobbies. That’s when something in me told me to start a blog. That was months ago.

So you’re probably asking, “If you had this idea months ago, why are you just now starting it?” To be 100% transparent, I was afraid. Afraid of being judged by the content, afraid people wouldn’t be receptive, afraid it wouldn’t measure up to the billions of other blogs out there.

Fear, sometimes, is a good thing. Healthy, even. A small amount of fear can let you know that you’re headed in the right direction or making a good choice. When you really love someone or something, or you’re unquestionably and unambiguously passionate about a certain thing, a level of fear will be present.

But when fear stabilizes you, and you’re too afraid to pursue the things that are on your heart and mind to do with your life is when it becomes problematic. And like most things in life, this kind of fear was a choice.

I had this idea in mind. I did my research on how to start it and what I wanted to write about. I even wrote the first post (hopefully you’ll read it next). But it’s been in my draft folder for months because I decided that I was going to be afraid of something that presently does not exist. I also chose to be afraid.

I also chose to be negative. I never thought, “What if people like my work? What if they are receptive to it? How can I use this as a tool to further my career?” I put myself in a negative head space that aided my fear, which stopped me in my tracks from pursuing something I really wanted to do. How stupid, right?

Some how do you overcome it? Recognize and acknowledge the space you’re in. Are you just a little fearful because you care that person or that project so much? Or are you allowing fear to block you from a potential blessing? If it is the latter, just how you can choose to be afraid, you can also choose to do it afraid (hence the title. see what I did there).

Who care if people like it? If you’re doing it for the approval of people, chances are you’re doing it for the wrong reasons anyway. Who care if they judge you. You’re going to be judged anyway.

There are something in life you can not control. It’s going to be what it’s going to be and you’re going to have to learn to be at peace with it. But life is also about choices. You can choose to be fearful or chose to overcome. You can be stagnant or you can progress.

I am human enough to acknowledge that I was afraid to do this, but I’m also man enough to recognize that fear and overcome it by choosing to progress. And hopefully, I helped someone in the process.

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