Warning: If you are currently on the verge of a break-up, recently broken up, or your ain’t sh*t partner won’t return your calls or text messages, proceed with caution.
I was listening to my favorite podcast, The FriendZone, last week and they opened the show discussing break up songs. They all went around and listed a couple songs that really hit home when the relationship/situationship has run its course and it’s time to move on (easier said than done, I’m aware).
It got me thinking about my go-to playlist for when it’s time to break out the ribs, wine and ice cream. AKA throwing a pity party for myself with my favorite sad songs. What’s funny is, I actually have an entire playlist on my Spotify dedicated to pity parties. I mean, doesn’t everyone? Thankfully, there has been no need for it recently. *hits dabb*
But, why? Why do we do this to ourselves? It would make sure sense to listen to something more uplifting, right?
For me, I think it’s nice to know that someone else has gone through what I’m currently going through during my time of heartbreak and self-pity. And a lot of the time, you can’t put into words the exact feelings you are experiencing. The right song, at the right time, can and will, though. It allows you to connect with both the artist and your present state of emotions. And once you recognize your current emotional state, you can begin to deal with them and start to move on (if you’re willing and ready, of course).
So while it is a bit melancholy to lay in a fetal position listening to sad songs, I believe it also aids you in the process of recovery.
Here are just a few of the songs that I love when the unfortunate but inevitable time has come.
(This is by no means an exhaustive list, these are just a few of my favorites)
This song low-key tore me up when I was going it during a past situationship (Situationship-any problematic relationship characterized by one or more unresolved, interpersonal conflicts. usually confused with dating). Shoutout to Urban Dictionary.
Again, another song that tore me up. I don’t even think I was going through anything when I first heard this. A combination of Labrinth’s voice and the authenticity of the lyrics did it for me.
If your partner has recently left you for someone else, get a slab of ribs, wine and ice cream ready. Jazmine is going to take you there with this one. Sidenote: I saw Jazmine Sullivan live in concert last night and she is EVERYTHING!
An Etta James original, redone my Beyonce for the movie Cadillac Records. She did that.
This song could have been the theme song for a situationship that my stupid 20-year old self was a part of in college. We must learn when to let folks go. “How could this be love but makes me feels so bad.” Bruh!
Amber Riley is a gem! She is one of the best vocalist of our generation. When I watched Glee, it was for the sole purpose of hearing her sing. After she sang us under our seats during The Wiz Live, I’m hoping I will be seeing more of her.
When you’re in love all by yourself. *grabs tissue*
This song is the epitome of a broken heart. “And the worse part is, before it gets any better we’re headed for a cliff. And in the freefall I will realize I’m better off when I hit the bottom.” Bruhhh…
“Something always brings me back to you, it never takes too long.” I’m going to need Sara Bareilles to stop telling all my business. Thanks.
I think it’s pretty apparent that I love Whitney Houston, but Sam Smith’s cover to “How Will I Know” really took me there. Sam Smith is known for getting folks in their feelings, though.
BRUHHHH! Just listen to the song. Sidenote: Vivian Green also performed at the concert I was at last night. Beautiful woman, beautiful spirit, beautiful voice!
It’s impossible to have a list of sad songs and not mention Love Is A Losing Game by the late and great Amy Winehouse.
If you’ve made it to the end of this post and you’re not in your feelings, congratulations. You’re probably one of the more emotionally stable humans. If you are, however, currently in your feelings after reading and listening, I apologized. You were warned.
Leave some comments of your favorite sad songs!